What Anxiety and Confidence Have In Common

Anxiety and confidence

What anxiety and confidence have in common are….stories.  The stories we visualize, the stories we tell ourselves, and the stories we choose to believe about ourselves.


Anxious people visualize the most unfavorable outcome of a given situation.  They tell themselves negative Anxiety and confidencestories about about themselves, their work, relationships, situation, sport, etc.  The internalize it, believe it, and live it.


Confident people visualize the most favorable outcome of a given situation.  They tell themselves positive stories about themselves, their work, relationships, situation, sport, etc.  They internalize it, believe it, and live it.


Both the anxious and confident have viewpoints on obstacles and challenges.

Anxious people see a challenges as an obstacles.  Confident people see an obstacles as a challenges. (Click to Tweet this quote)

Something to make you go…hmm! Here’s the thing in either case the story does not have to be true…it just boils down to what you choose to believe is true.  The most confident and successful people lie to themselves, or tell themselves stories over and over about the favorable outcome they want until it happens.

What will you choose to believe about you?

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How To Be Successful – 7 Things Anyone Can Do To Be Successful

How to be successful

How To Be Successful

7 Critical Success Factors

1. Be Consistent: This may be the most important factor of success.  The willingness to consistently show up, ship your art, try again when you fail, write when no one reads, paint when no one appreciates, etc.  Example: Seth Godin consistently writes a blog post every day of the week and post it at 6:15 am eastern time.  He has done this for more than 4 years now.  At first Seth says nobody read his blog but he consistently showed up, shipped his art and now he’s operates one of the most influential blogs in the world, and has written a dozen or so best sellers.

2. Be Crazy: Don’t be afraid to live on the the edge, seek fringes, be weird, or have people think you’re off your rocker.  The middle is an overcrowded place where simply being good unfortunately is enough.  Don’t fake it though.  The idea is to be true to who you really are regardless of what the world thinks.

Average people often don’t recognize genius at first glance and defer to calling it crazy, bizarre, or weird….think Richard Wayne Penniman, AKA,  Little Richard. Who despite being considered weird for being openly gay, and wearing women’s makeup invented a new sound (R&B), gave first starts to Jimi Hendrix, Ottis Reading, James Brown, The Beatles, and The Rolling Stones.

3. Be Committed to a cause greater than yourself and give your talent to it with no expectation of anything in return.  My friend world-renowned photographer David Sacks travels to Africa every year, shoots the most amazing photos of people living there, and donates them to non-profit Covenant Mercies. They then auction the framed art to help build schools, homes, and provide aids relief.

4. Be Connected to sneezers.  The more sneezers who know what you do the more likely you’ll reach your goals.

5. Be a Connector: Don’t keep your network to yourself.  Seek out opportunities to connect those in your network who are in need to those with ample supply.  My friend Shelton Mercer, @SheltonMercer, runs TwittChange and that’s their whole mission.  His non-profit organization raises money for victims of devastation by connecting his network of celebrity, and professional athletes with a worthy cause.  Follow him on Twitter and tell him Rodney sent you.

Critical Success Factors

6. Be a Change Agent: Instead of waiting for change to occur become the change you want to see in your industry, neighborhood, job, family, the world, etc. You might as well because change will happen anyway.  In fact change is the new normal, and with change always comes some level of chaos. That’s why most people seek stable environments, they avoid change at all cost, they fear change.

Learn to embrace and adapt to change quicker than your competition, co-workers, etc.  In fact be courageous and seek out industries, environments, projects, etc, where change is happening rapidly because where change occurs there is always a new challenge in need of a new solution.

Successful change agents…Princess Diana, Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, The Dalai Lama.  Believe it or not Russell Simons is moving in this direction check out his book Super Rich: A Guide to Having It All (it’s not at all what you would expect nor what it sounds like on the surface) and follow him on Twitter and you’ll see.  He admits he’s no Gandhi but he has changed and he trying to be the change he wants to see in the world and that’s the whole point.

7. Be Complicated: Steve Jobs was a barefoot walking, bathing his feet in toilets, Bob Dylan listening, yelling at people, crying (actual tears) in meetings, LSD taking, over emotional, impossible to get along with, say what ever was on his mind regardless of how much it hurt others, hippy, who loved art.  He made a dent in the universe by packaging all of that complicated stuff into everything he shipped.  Thanks Steve!

What other factors can you think of to help people be successful?  Share them in the comment section.


If Rudyard Kipling

Rudyard Kipling

My friend Edward Gay taught me this poem when we were college students.  It’s been with me since then and has motivated me through many tough times.  I believe it has a place here for my readers because as marketers, entrepreneurs, etc, we dream, take risk, we experience triumphs and disasters.  ‘If ‘by Rudyard Kipling offers insight, hope, and encouragement for those in need. I hope you enjoy it.

Rudyard KiplingIf you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

by Rudyard Kipling

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